To rent or to buy? First of all, I will not talk about the rule of thumb used by economist: if the home price is 15 times higher than the annual rent for a similar property, it is better to rent. Nor will I talk about financial worksheets of formulas and ratios used by accountants to determine whether it’s better to lease or buy a property. No, I won’t mention them. (Smile) What I will do is to share the emotional struggles and questions I’ve gone through to determine whether it’s better to rent or buy. (Here I am not talking about hardship cases where renting is the only option. I’m talking about choices – when we can afford both rent and buy options.) Renting Renting is like “living-in-sin” or co-habiting with a partner. It makes sense when psychologically, we fear committing to a banking relation by committing to a 20 to 30 years loan. No hand-cuffs for us! And at the back of our minds, we fear this song may come true: “Yes it’s sad to belong to someone when the right one comes along”. Yup, how many times have we bought a “tock gong” (gangbuster) product – only to be frustrated that a better and newer model is available 6 months down the road? Yes, renting makes a whole lot of sense when after each lease agreement; you want to switch to a fresh and young place all the time. Yes, we all like to have condo mambo no. 5! We rejoice in the unbearable lightness of being (now that’s a contradiction!). As for the downside, renters have to bear with lots of well-meaning advice from relatives and friends – especially during the festive seasons when we only see them once a year. “Ah Boy, you must buy a place and commit. Cannot like that, you not getting younger you know!? Renting has no security.” Also, there could be regrets when the rental property you like very much is sold to a new buyer. When you plead with the previous owner to sell it to you instead, the slap in the face reply is: “If you liked it, you should’ve put a ring on it.” Buying Ah! Buying your own place for the first time is full of anticipation and trepidation….. Lots of self-doubts and cold-feet moments before we muster up the courage to sign on the dotted line. Yes, this is the property! (We hope…) Buying is like a marriage. For some, it’s love at first sight. You see, you like, you buy! For some, it’s multiple rounds of property searching (you are the client from hell to property agents!). And some were formerly renters – having gone through a soul searching and heart wrenching transformation to converts of commitment. To us, it’s more than bricks and mortars. It’s home. No matter what slings and arrows we suffer outside, when we return home, it’s where we find solace and comfort. And it does not matter whether it’s a palatial bungalow, a shoe-box studio or a 1 room HDB (subsidized housing); it’s still our “castle”. And having a place we can call our own sends a powerful message to potential partners we would like to share our homes with. This signal of “marriage potential” is one of the most powerful pheromones we send to the opposite sex. No? Renters tend to use flashy cars as pheromones to attract sleepovers at their place. Different strokes for different folks! Buying a property is the first step to growing roots, then developing strong branches where you bear the most beautiful flowers and bountiful fruits for the next generation to enjoy. “I, me, and myself” fades into my family. However, it’s not always a bed of roses. The biggest downside to buying a place of your own is when you fight with your partner over it - when it’s time to go our separate ways. You wonder why has it gone this far; and where has the love gone. Now you spend your time with vultures in suits over settlements on who gets what….. A place of pride and comfort has become a weapon and symbol of hurt…… To get even…… This is the time you envy your renter friends who have a much easier exit clause: “Just leave the keys on the table when you leave.” Ouch! Decision time “What should I do?” you asked. Eh…. You are asking a single person who has bought a 3 room HDB. I’ve told you in my previous “Term or Whole-life?” posting that I am a confused guy….. I should be asking you instead! About the Author: "Hi! I'm a Singaporean working in Athens, Greece. I aspire to be like the swan that's here and gone.  And if need be, I'll rather be the hammer than the nail. Yes, it's from that song. 123, Away, I rather sail away.... (El Condor Pasa)" Singapore Man of Leisure (welcome to my blog; just google it!) This post was written by a guest contributor. Please see their details in the post above. If you'd like to guest post for TheFinance.sg, contact me for details about how YOU can share your tips and knowledge with our community.