I think we have all heard the above phrase before.   Can we? Really?   If we can't see ourselves clearly. We can't.   Recently, my wife and MIL have been trying very hard to console someone close to them to snap out of her depression and her negativity.   Usually the person get on my MIL's nerves by being too negative and grouchy. While I feel that her predicaments are largely due to her own earlier actions, I cannot quite agree with some of the comments made by my wife and MiL.   When we are low in our life, some of us wallow in sorrow for a while and stand up. But there are others who cannot wake up.   I dun agree that she is depressed and sucidal, but I do think she is sick mentally and she need help.   I tried cajoling her to do chanting at temple and borrow ......