I read SMOL’s post on the difference between frugal and miserly with quite a bit of interest. Not to mention the conversation it generated with the numerous comments.

He basically summed up the difference as:

A frugal person loves to spend less on himself; but when it comes to people that matter, he does not mind spending money on them.
A miser will not spend money on himself and others.

Although I largely agree with the above distinction, I personally don’t think it’s very useful, at least in my own situation. According to the Mrs, I tend to be “kinder and nicer” to friends or strangers as compared to loved ones like family.

First, I would impose more of my own views and preferences on loved ones.

For example, when I am out dining with her, I would actively express my displeasure if we are having something that is not …