Written by Daniel Tay, edited by Jackie Tan. 

We earn money with our blood, sweat and tears. We earn it with irreplaceable time and indeed our very lives. Earning, saving, spending, investing, and giving money all involve some kind of sacrifice, making money a highly sensitive subject even among couples. Read on to find out how to stop fighting in a relationship if you and your partner frequently quarrel over his/her spending habits.

Step 1: Understand the past

Firstly, understand that it may not be you or your partner’s fault. For example, we usually learn how to handle money from our first teachers – our parents.

Jane’s (not her real name) father was a problem gambler. He frequently borrowed money from family members including her, often not returning what he borrowed. Jane loved her father very much, and didn’t like to refuse when he approached her.

But Jane didn’t like …