This came about after I became triggered after reading Teo You Yenn’s book when she created a false dichotomy on the various approaches to parenting found in Singapore.

For the folks that she did a lot of ethnographic research on, she labelled their approach towards children as seeing them as a “blessing”. Children are almost like a gift from the Almighty. You take the children as they are and then do your best in raising them. Children for these folks are happy accidents.

Prof Teo had no mercy for the folks on the other side of the rich-poor divide. The label she applied to parents like myself is that we view our children as “projects”. This is because we take a lot of pains to plan our families and put our kids through the education system.

By using two carefully chosen labels, Prof Teo was able to realign everyone’s perspective …