Japanese authors Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga continue to produce “idea dividends” in their second book on Adlerian Philosophy entitled The Courage to be Happy. Some of the frameworks in therapy can be really useful in deconstructing fellow Singaporeans. Today I will apply the Adlerian Stages of Problem Behaviour to study, and shed light, on how Singaporean become Bui Bui Forever Alone, a special breed of Internet troll that exists in our local interwebs.
Let us first discuss the context of dating in Singapore. Unlike women, men can be judged by their success in life. This is often material or financial in nature. When men gather, they often sort themselves based on hierarchy loosely based on material and financial success. So men who are trying to mate have to contend with female hypergamy. It’s not that Singapore women are materialistic – Singapore women may find that having some material success corresponds to psychological traits that make good dads, like conscientiousness and punctuality.