The other day some friends asked me what Tacomob actually means and stands for.  As this is a FAQ I often encounter, let me share my thoughts here:

In one sentence, I prefer to Tacomob instead of mentally doing other’s business.

What do I mean with “other’s business”?

Example thoughts of being in “other’s business”:

  • You need to get a job.
  • I want you to be happy.
  • You should be on time.
  • My wife should love me more.
  • You need to take better care of yourself.
  • Julie did not smile at me.
  • My children do not care enough for me.
  • My employer should appreciate me.
  • People should be kinder to me.

You will have noticed that in all the above examples, the person thinking these thoughts is linking his well-being to something someone else should or should not do, which obviously is out of his control.   It is the other person’s business to do or not do what he needs …